What Golf Has Done For Me
By drew1473 on 4/25/11
If the oober-submitted columns keep rolling in, we may have to make Monday the official guest column day. This week Andrew "drew1473" Eubanks opens up about his love for the game of golf. Enjoy.
I finally understand why I love the game of golf so much. It is a rare sport where your biggest opponent is yourself, or one person versus another on an equal playing field. Each with generally the same weapons of choice based upon personal choice... 14 clubs, little round white balls with dimples, tees, and their own innate ability and knowledge.
I played baseball and football growing up, which both are team sports. Sports in which the coach emphasizes that there is no "I" in "TEAM", which I do agree is very true. Now, do not get me wrong I absolutely loved those sports growing up. I always thought golf was for old people when I was younger. I guess I became old at the age of 20. Baseball and football came very easy to me for the most part. I practiced hard, but was also born with some God-given talent to play those sports with relative ease. However, golf did not come as easily.
I became very frustrated when first taking up the game. I was introduced to golf the summer after my sophomore year in college by my now wife. She was my girlfriend at that time, and we had only been dating for a couple of months. I traveled two hours to spend time with her one weekend. She and her mom had been playing golf for about a year at that time. I asked her if I could try hitting once or twice during the round. She finally said yes, because I had been driving the cart and watching them play for about 5 or 6 holes. It was getting boring just driving the cart. I got up there and swung as hard as I could and probably had one of the ugliest slices in the history of golf. It would go straight for about 50 yards and then make a 90 degree right turn and go about 100-150 yards. I was so discouraged that my shot was that ugly. Well, after going back home I told my dad I wanted to take up golf since I could no longer play football or baseball.
My dad asked if I was being serious about playing golf. A couple of weeks later, my dad surprised me with a trip to Target in which he bought me my first set of golf clubs. It was a set of Dunlop John Daly clubs that was Driver thru putter and bag. They were a good beginning set of clubs. I started playing more and more. Well, after I started straightening out my slice, I decided to make my first big golf purchase. I bought a Callaway Big Bertha driver. I owned it for a couple of weeks, and it just did not seem to work very well for me. So I turned around and sold it for the same price that I bought it for. So, I got a nice two or three week trial period out of the club. That Christmas, my dad bought me a Nike SQ 10.5* driver. I had tested one out at the local club a few times and liked the way it hit. I kept on playing with the John Daly irons, and a Nike Blue Chip Putter I bought off EBay for $20. In the summer of 2008, I made a deal with my mom that if she bought me new irons it could count as my birthday and Christmas present that year. Dick's Sporting Goods had put a great sale on for sets of irons, and my mom bought me a set of Callaway X-18 irons. She thought they were pretty, I thought they hit well, so it worked out well. I was gradually getting better. I had shot par on a small 9-hole municipal course once or twice. Later on that summer my now wife and I had been planning a trip to Myrtle Beach to play golf and relax for a week or so. She didn't know it, but I had a plan. I was going to propose to her, while we were down there.
We had set up 5 or 6 nights at the Caravelle Resort along with two rounds of golf, one at Myrtle Beach National and one at Wicked Sticks Golf Links (John Daly Signature Course). I may have grown up not wanting to play golf, but I did grow up liking sports and John Daly was one of the ones I liked. Now, I have a lot of favorite golfers (Ian Poulter, John Daly, Rickie Fowler, Tiger, and others). My wife hates the fact that she introduced me to golf. I read golf magazines and books, look at golf websites, watch the golf channel, watch tournaments on TV, watch golf movies all the time, play a round every chance I get, talk about golf any chance I get. She says that I am obsessed, which quite possibly is true. In fact, almost all of my favorite movies are golf ones: Legend of Bagger Vance, Bobby Jones: Stroke of Genius, Dead Solid Perfect, Tin Cup, and The Greatest Game Ever Played.
If I may take a quote from Legend of Bagger Vance; "Golf is a game that can't be won, only played. And so I play. I play on. I play for the moments yet to come... looking for my place in the field". It takes only one good shot to make a round worthwhile. Even if you do not happen to hit that shot, you come back another time to see if you can. That shot can be a drive, iron, wedge or a putt. It is all about consistency. The more shots you hit that put a smile on your face, the better you feel about your game.
Being a teenage boy, my dad and I had a hard time communicating, mostly due to the fact that I blamed him for my parent's divorce. When he was a teenager he used to play golf when he worked at a local golf course, but gave it up. Once I started playing, my dad decided to pick it back up. When he would travel to see me at school, he would bring his clubs and a few beers for us to go out and enjoy the course. It was a great way for us to re-build a relationship. We talked about life, sports, local news, work, school, and the past. I am glad that golf was able to help us rebuild a relationship that was almost lost because of me being a stubborn teenager. Golf has helped with me with two relationships, one with my wife and one with my dad. I don't know how I could ever repay the game of golf for what it has given me. “So I just play, I play on, play for the moments yet to come.”
Who would have thought that 14 clubs, little round white balls with dimples, tees, and could do so much? I never would have. But I am so thankful that it did. Golf teaches us about integrity, honesty, and to play by the rules. It is the only game, where you can call a penalty on yourself. You get out of it, what you put in to it. If you want to get better, you play it by the rules and not by the score.
I, first, took up the game to have something in common with my girlfriend. Something that we could do together and enjoy the game and each other's company, however it has done so much more for me than that.
This was written by Andrew Eubanks, a reader/follower/fellow oober and the opinions are 100% his and do not necessarily reflect those of oobgolf in anyway. Enjoy! I'm sure he's ready for your feedback.
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Good read- thanks for sharing with us Andrew!
Kurt the Knife says:
Spooky thing. I have been trying to drive with a BigBertha Diablo and found my Nike SQ 3w typically carried 30-40 yds longer.
So I recently Bought a Nike SQ Driver on eBay to match.
As they say, great minds..
It is great that golf has given so much back to you. Let's hope we all continue to have many opportunities to "play for the moments yet to come."
one of the best articles yet. dont have much too comment on though... Golf for me is like therapy. soothes my soul you could say. That is what golf has done for me. Golf has made me some friends and some enemies. It kinda lets you see into how people really are. Honest? Cheats? Cry Babies? Good losers? sore losers?
Kurt the Knife says:
golf has given new focus for my megalomaniacal tendencies.
Good read @drew1473.
agree @Banker...golf reveals a lot about a person's character...or lack thereof.
Kurt the Knife says:
DANG U BEEN SPAMMMMMED ELIMINATE rita11 and all the BS it is!
times like this i wish i was a hacker
Wow, they're expanding into the clubhouse now. Grr.
@K-T-K....uh, what? Who has been spammed or is spamming?
Kurt the Knife says:
sry, there were some spam posts last nite. someone named rita11. looks like the mods deleted them.
move along..nothing to see here
Kurt the Knife says:
maybe i can have my hysterical post removed too?
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