Playing With Random Golfers
By Kickntrue on 9/8/09
When you get paired up with other golfers at the course does it throw your game off? It's funny- I used to HATE getting paired with a random person, but more often than not, I'm the random person now, so I guess I'm a little more okay with it. I think it can still be frustrating if you have a threesome of good friends used to playing together and you get hooked up with the odd man out, but I appreciate a course doing that more than sending out groups of 1 and 2 for sure.
The question is- besides being possibly an annoyance, does it throw off you game? Do you feel more inclined to follow all of the rules of golf more to the book?
For me it's all about etiquette. When I'm playing with good friends- I'm going to drive my cart or walk to my ball- even if it's 30 yards in front of someone else (and let's be honest- it's always 30 yards in front.. ZING). It bothers me to change my pace for someone else- but hopefully not my final score, though I'm not sure that is the case. Your thoughts are welcome.
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I've been the odd man out lately. I've been heading to the course on a weekday, and play with 3somes that are good friends. it usually throws me off for the first hole. by the second tee, i know the kind of players i'm with.
Unless I've booked a tee time and made the effort to put a group together, I'm normally the "extra." I play the way I always play... ready golf. Whether I'm with random strangers, or with my friends, I get to my ball and get ready to play. When I have people playing their balls from behind me, I give them the opportunity to play first, but if I get to my ball first, and they're fumbling around, trying to figure out what club they should play next, I'll play my ball and then wait.
Whenever you're in front of someone, keep an eye on them. Make sure you're not anywhere near their line to the green. I have taken a struck ball off the hand, and it HURTS.
i am like these guys, i usually get paired up or catch up to some groups and they ask if i wanna play with them. sometimes i do sometimes im not in the mood but i always say yes, i actually play better i think when i am with someone i don't really know. and i don't notice that when i get paired up with a group or vice versa every one does seem to play more by the rules which i actually enjoy a lot. most the people i play with just go up and whack away regardless of anything, get kinda annoying sometimes that is why i hardly play with these certain people.
correction > "and i do* notice that when..."
I always seem to play better when I can get into a certain rythm, More often then not this year I have been the odd man out. It dosen't bother me if I golf with random strangers or friends as long as they can keep a certain pace and are not really slow. It also gives you the oppertunity to meet some real charcters out on the course. Weather I'm alone or with a group I always follow the rules and am always ready to play golf.
before, i couldn't stand playing with people i didn't know because i would always try to beat them. even if their game was better than mine, it didn't matter, i wanted to make them submit. so yes, it would take me out of my game mentally and i would shoot scores worse than usual. the worst part about it was knowing that you're doing it, but can't stop yourself from having those thoughts. so i just wouldn't play if i couldn't go out with my usual group, which i was comfortable with.
i've since gotten older and wiser and don't do that anymore...much. every once in a while it comes back, but i usually catch it in time.
Tony Bracewell says:
I'm almost always the odd man and it never has bothered me. I play my game, follow good golf etiquette and enjoy getting to meet other folks. I've seldom come across someone that I did not care to play with again. I have a 9 handicap and usually am the best player. I compliment good shots and enjoy seeing others succeed.
Optimus Prime says:
Ninety eight percent of the time I'm paired with someone I don't know. What I have noticed is that if the group it really good, it brings my game up a level where I'm able to keep up with them. The reverse is also true when I'm paired with someone not so good. My game suffers a little because I'm not trying as hard.
Bryan K says:
I enjoy being the odd man out. Even moreso, I enjoy getting paired up with the same person a few different times. I've made some good acquaintances on the course.
That said, I play the same game no matter who I'm playing with. I used to play better with strangers because I'd take more time to line up shots in order to not embarass myself. However, I have seen enough players who are otherwise good golfers have bad days to know that this game is never all about one round. Plus, I've played enough rounds and hit enough balls now to know that the swings are all the same whether someone is watching or not.
I like adding walking or riding singles or 2 golfer groups to us(usually me and my dad). It seems to really help me relax, I think it's because I enjoy the company this sport brings.
It really brings people together, the only time I hate adding people to my group or joining a group is if they are "pros" mentally and "hackers" on the outside... Nothing else really bothers me and effects my game more than "I'm going for this par 4 in one" and they slice it into the woods...and say "I usually get that everytime..."
But overall I love almost anyone's company, I think that's a big part of this game.
see i play for fun and i suck so bad, but love to play the game twice a week that if my golf partner and i are paired up it usually makes us play better! and golf people are usually always nice and they are just out to have fun play a good game of golf!
Being I head to the course alone 80% of the time, I get paired up a lot. When I was younger, I always had issues on the 1st tee, and on "pressure shots". Nowadays, I like to meet people and it doesn't affect me one bit. I play by the rules even when playing solo, so that is not a factor.
I am a 2 handicap and have fun playing with random people, even if they are not very good. If they ask, I may drop a few small pointers and enjoy seeing the other people in the group do well. I have played a lot of competitive golf, so even if the guys I am paired with are annoying, I am able to block them out and focus on my own game. One trend I see a lot is that strangers that are bogey golfers will play really well when they first start playing with me, but then their demons eventually come out and they blow up. I usually shoot in the same range no matter who I am playing with though.
I always play by the rules, I actually find the game more 'comforting' to play when there is no 'gimmies'. With that said, when pairing up with other people nothing drives me more insane than playing with someone who drops their ball outside of the bunker, because being 'egged' is considered unplayable- with no penatly. I guess I read into it too much, as we aren't playing for money... but at the same time I feel it's a respect thing. It boils over when they brag they got par, after getting a 'free drop' out of the bunker, and picking up their ball 2 feet from the hole cause 'its practically in'. Grr.
It's natural to attribute success/ failure to things which are different from the last time. If you're always changing partners...
Often times, a particular random partner will quickly grasp my game, and if they know the course well, can really help me. I myself, have a very open mind on the course, and am very positive/ optimistic. Typically, we'll be fast friends and start rooting for eachother.
Most of the time people will be impressed with my long drives right away, and I'll have to remind them that I keep real score, and put up big numbers just like everyone else. I'll pull out an old score card and flash a snowman from a recent round. It's good to have a solid base of honesty about the game instead of everyone trying to pretend that they should be hitting every shot perfectly. Nothing worse than crappy hitters complaining. Hey, if you're slapping it around at the muni with me, you can't be that good!
Yeah - like dlouder said. I was paired with a hacker once who cheated on almost every hole and then only asked what I shot on a hole when his "adjusted" score was lower than mine. After about 7 holes he started giving me swing advice. I think there should be fighting in golf.
I agree with joepro... I initially tend to focus more early on and play solid early. After about 5-6 holes I generally come back to reality and play a more normal round.
The only thing I sometimes don't like about playing with others (and it's minor), is when I am the only one playing the back tees. Some days it doesn't affect me. Other days I almost feel like I am being egotistical. It also kind of depends who I am playing with (do they give a "look at this guy" expression). Of course it's worse if I start off badly.
cjgiant >> If I find myself playing a set of tees further back, or get paired up at a course that's a bit difficult, I always just tell the guys I get tagged with, "I'm stretched a little past my comfort zone today, but I just feel like I needed to mix things up/challeneg myself today. I'll make up for it by playing ready golf." I've never had an issue after that.
What bugs me is the golfer who tried to help my buddy out by cheating for him. While the guy was kind enough to help us look for my buddy's ball in some deep rough, when he found it he kicked it into the fairway. "Just play it from there" he said. Well my friend is good enough to slash it out of that rough, progressing the ball at least part way to the hole. Instead he took a penalty stroke just to move it two feet...
That's a classic, Bigacito. No pesky rules for that guy. Another bad situation is when the guys you are paired with hit up on the group in front of you, don't yell Fore! or otherwise make you look bad - guilt by assoc. I've had bad experiences, but on average, it's usually pleasant and sometimes a friendship can break out. I also like the added challenge of playing with strangers - a little like being in a pro-am or some other stress-inducing format that takes u out of comfort zone. Good training for mental/emotional discipline.
Im a younger guy...23 and i hate it when i get paired with (sorry guys) older people. Alot of times i hear "oh man i've been playing for 30 yrs." Then how is it you suck so bad? Or the old guy trying to impress himself by claiming he can outdrive me. I don't hit the ball that far about 270, but there is always some one on the course who thinks that they are great by standing at the tee and saying "I'm goin right over those trees to the dogleg, I do it all the time!" then spending 10 minutes hunting that guys lost ball because he won't chalk it up as a bad decision.
I just started playing this summer, and so I've slowly progressed to playing by all the rules, and really don't always do it now, sometimes because I don't know them and sometimes because I just don't feel like it. However, I don't mind if guys play by the rules or not. I am not competitive in golf with anyone but myself. If I shoot an 88 and my partner shoots an 86, I'm just happy to be in the 80's and happier for him.
I used to hate playing with other people because I was nervous I would do something stupid like completely miss the ball off the tee. Now that I don't do that kind of stuff (very often, at least) I love partying up and meeting new people.
Yeah, if you're playing with somebody, they're way cooler than if they're in the group ahead or behind you, those b@#$%^&s!!!
You get to see some pretty funky swings up close. It was inevitable when people would watch my swing and ask eventually... "do you realize that your right hand is coming off as you go around?" And it's always funny, cause I could say (going back a few years), "ever heard of Mark Mcguire?" He was a proponent of the one hand realease. Of coure it's easy because I've got a baseball grip - no interlock or overlap - left thumb wrapped around. It would just usually suffice to say... "Do you realize where the ball is in relation to yours?"
And of course the guys who get on me for runing a hole (bogey say) when I had a perfect monster drive - "this game is tough!" Meanwhile they're giving eachother gimmies left and right while I'm playing it down and putting everything until in the hole. Egad!
Boy this on is hit or miss. Most times I enjoy golfing with others reguardless of skill. As long as the etiquette is there, no problem. But there is always Rodney Dangerfiled who knows is all. The key is your rythym. I try and set the tone by playing ready golf.
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