I Hate Golf
By Kickntrue on 5/26/10
I'm not sure there is anything more depressing (in trivial aspects of life- I do have some perspective) than playing a terrible round of golf you're really excited about. I just finished playing and it was miserable. I shot a 58 on the front and was ready to quit. My friend convinced me to stay only be agreeing to give up his back 9 and scramble with me instead. That was a lot more fun- but still not good golf. I certainly don't have expectations of greatness, but as recently as last year I was playing to about a 13.5 handicap. If I didn't have a round already scheduled for tomorrow I seriously consider giving up the game for a couple months... though I have a feeling not playing is one of the primary causes of my struggles.
I know this is reading more like a whiny diary entry than one of my normal blogs but I have a feeling every golfer has been here before and I'm looking for support, for me, and the rest of us. I have about 27 hours to figure something out- or tomorrow is going to be another miserable experience to what is supposed to be an enjoyable time with friends and family. It just sucks to take time away from what I do, to do something I supposedly love, and then find it's nothing but a big suck.
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Kurt the Knife says:
WAAH WAAH WAAH
this post lost on a 31 handicapper
I feel ya. This past Saturday I was all geek'd up to play against a friend of mine. We had a tee time a nicer course here in town and I had some new tools in my bag to show off; mainly a nice, long draw I recently learned to hit and figured with that, and my better iron play than him, I would treat him to a royal ass-whipping. Just to make sure everything was well, I played a local muni on Friday and shot my lowest score. Saturday rolls around and I play like absolute garbage. We ended up tying, but because my driver failed me, I was basically hitting 3 the minute I pulled it out of the bag. Seriously frustrating and made the day a miserable one.
Just get it out of your head, it probably wont repeat. Sunday, i seriously blocked 100% of my drives...it was miserable. So i forgot about it, remembered to stay loose through the swing and yesterday i was fine off the tee. Didn't break any records, but had fun.
Just forget it, and don't grab a club until 27 hours from now.
Bryan K says:
There is a kid I play with occasionally who is pretty good, especially for his age. Last year, on one round, I had two nasty blowup holes in a row, and I was starting to lose my composure. He tried to soothe me by saying things like "it's better than being at work. It's a beautiful day." Well, he calmed me down, and on the very next hole, he shot an abysmal quad. He was throwing clubs and swearing. I call that humorous.
Bryan K says:
My advice? Look...I still haven't had a full round where everything is clicking. I'm pretty sure I'm capable of playing to a 15 to 17 handicap, but there is always one part of my game that really sucks on each round. I have gone the other way, though, and had all parts of my game not working. What do I do when this happens? I start trying to forget about the whole round and I tray to take each shot as an individual game upon itself. After 18 holes, you're going to have a few good shots. Those are the ones I try to dwell on. Forget about your bad shots, and just think about your next one.
The only other option, as I see it, is to stay home when my game is going badly.
After shooting an (awesome for me) 84 on Easter, I struggled to a 115 last weekend. I feel your pain. It sucks being in the middle of a round like that, but rather than hang up the clubs...it makes me want to play again sooner!
quit crying seriously. go play, if you suck oh well. just get wasted if all else fails.
Look you are not a pro, just focus on the positive things. Hit shots you know you can hit. And if you havent played that much lately, play more, the more you play the better you will get, (to a point obvioulsy) but for real, if it sucks that bad then quit like a big wussy quitter.
Bryan K says:
@tiwahu: fresh off my best round ever at one of the several courses I frequent, I know how you feel. I don't feel like I played all that well dispite my score, but I'm a bit hesitant to hit the links again tonight because it will be so hard to improve upon that.
I hate it too.
But I love it so much.
You will find your love for it again, soon enough. I typically quit for good every 3rd or 4th (bad) round or so.
lol; funny stuff bjohn.
I second tiwahu; when I play horribly, I hate the game while I'm playing but as soon as I'm done, I'm ready to go back out and redeem myself. We know our potential that's why it's so frustrating to play so poorly.
Take my round on Sunday; I was playing so badly for the first few holes (chunking like mad), that I wanted to quit. My bro-in-law reminded me to have fun. That's all it took for me. I told myself to have fun and I loosened up; not caring what I did after that. It only took me a couple good holes and I completely forgot about my atrocious start. I finished the back 9 with a 41 (excellent for me).
Stick with it AB and don't let the game beat you. Golf is an amazing game and a few bad rounds is not worth quitting over. You have the potential to play good golf; you've proved that. Just go out and have fun tomorrow; and let somebody else keep score for you so you are only focused on playing.
@bjohn; you are improving your game each time you go out; whether your final score reflects that or not is beside the point. I have watched you get better and better each week; it won't be long before you get your handicap in the low 20's.
Can totally relate - I've had some close to 20 stroke differentials within a couple of weeks, this is with lessons, plenty of time on the range, chipping and putting greens. I was beyond frustrated! I was ready to walk away from the game about two weeks ago. I didn't play for over a week - I usually play 2-3 times a week, but then I had to put it in perspective - I'm at least a bogey golfer - that's the reality and I'm learning to be 'okay' with that. I play better and enjoy it more when I'm realstic about how good (bad) I am.
It is very frustrating to look forward to a great course and then play terrible.Happened to me a week ago at Timberline.Try to look at each hole as an individual challenge to not make worse than double bogey.If you hit a bad shot,play a safe next shot, no heroics.Also I try not to add my score up until the round is over.
I completely understand....got invited by the boss to play in a Member - Guest at the most exclusive club in town..the night before I go to the range...(bad idead as I am not a "practice player", and develop a case of the Shanks)....show up with no confidence at the course....birdied the first hole, a 170 par 3...par on the next ..and from there...I basically embarassed myself for the next 2 days....haven't played since....it has been about 5 weeks...
I got very frustrated by being hung up in the 85 range with no signs of improvement, so I swore Id just quit, back in July. Finally decided to try again and all of a sudden Im breaking 80, no lessons, no new clubs, just slowing down and thinking about the shot more, especially putting.
I've been there too. Wanted to fix it as fast as I could - why aren't there 24-hour driving ranges on every corner? I found the best way for me to get over it was to either take a little time away from the game just to get some perspective, or if there was an imminent tee time ahead, adopt an I-don't-care-what-I-shoot attitude well before the round starts. Takes the pressure off and helps you appreciate the good things - your friends, the outdoors, etc. If you hit a few good shots along the way, it's a bonus. Don't worry, your game will come back.
Bryan K says:
@greendevil: I'm pretty ecstatic about how I'm playing overall right now. Every time I go out lately, I'm doing something for the first time or better than I've ever done it before. I hope it continues for awhile. But strukes helped me put things in perspective last Sunday after I hit an abysmal drive. I popped it straight into the air, and I got maybe 140 yards out of it...just barely to the fairway. Strukes told me that was about twice as good as I was doing at the beginning of the year and ad the end of last year, and he was right. But our expectations change. I know I'm capable of hitting the ball perfectly, so I want to hit the ball perfectly every time.
Yeah, don't get caught up in your score, the competition, or trying to play to your best; just hit the stupid ball. I walked onto my course last evening, waited for the last group to play through, set up 5 balls on the tee box, and hit them within a 5 yard radius from another, right down the fairway. I repeated that 4 more times with similar results. Why? I figured because I was just concentrating on the shots, not my score or my playing partner's shot. Just relax, play your game, and if you foul one off, so what, you're not a scratch golfer, right, so it happens.
EGG is absolutely correct. I did that yesterday. Didn't play that great on the back because it was raining, but for the entire round I just wrote down my score, FIR, and putts, and didn't think about what I was shooting. Didn't even add up my front nine until hole number 11 and only after getting a little grief from my playing partners wanting to know what I shot. No thinking about what I had to do to break such and such a number, etc. Just played hole to hole. The entire round (even in the rain) was much more enjoyable than the norm. Will continue to try and do that. (normally I need to know exactly where I'm at each hole in relation to my score, my potential ending score, my opponents score, etc. This approach is much more fun and relaxing)
MORE GOLF... LESS OOB!!!!
RELAX. Seriously! I just shot my best game ever this past friday (86) My playing partner said today "you seemed very relaxed that day". But I did started choking on the back 9 when I started to realize I might break 90 for the first time, nerves started to kick in and I blew an easy birdie and then missed the par shot too! I'm going out again in an hour. Will I be PO'ed if I don't break 90 again. Nope. Just going out to play some golf and have fun, be it bad shots or good shots! :)
Sure, it's a game and it's supposed to be fun. You've heard it, you know it, but can do it? Sometimes you get sucked into a circle of rage and frustration that'snot easy to break. Been there quite a few times myself. Last time was in October last year. In the end I took a couple of months off, including 20 day long holiday in a house overlooking a gorgeous course I didn't even set foot on. Now I'm coming back to the game. My scores are still bad, but I'm enjoying my time on the course again.
Torleif Sorenson says:
Andrew, slow down your back-swing. It doesn't matter what your swing path is, tilt-and-stack, etc., etc. Cool and smooth, like a James Jamerson bass line.
I'll also respectfully ask you to look back at my April 20th e-mail ("seven-year itch") and hope you realize it's good for you not to be me. 30 minutes after opening 11-12-10, I hit one of the sweeeetest 5-irons I've ever hit, and then 20 minutes after THAT was not upset to miss a birdie by six inches. Then closed with the best 3-metal shot I've ever hit, followed immediately by the first really competent bunker shot I've ever hit.
You *know* you get to "have golf" in 27 hours. I waited seven years and there's no telling when next I'll get to "have golf."
Think "Al Green" when you're approaching the green. Cool. Smooth. Buy Sam a drink and get his dog one, too.
Just have fun.
Sounds easier than it is right? I gave up the game because of the exact round you are talking about. I put my clubs in the attic for a whole year. Now I regret it. When I am having a shitty round, I remember I'm out here to have fun. It's been hard but it works. I just got back from a crappy round and on the 8th tee (I played 9), I remembered my mantra, "have fun". I relaxed, swung nice and loose and hit a 228 yard green with my 3 wood. The round still sucked but it's out of my head already. Just writing this is helping me forget it!
KVSmith59 makes a good point. Don't add up your score until the end, it will only lead to bad things. I know if I am doing pretty well or not that great but if it looks like I might have a low score that would mess with my head as would seeing that I am doing really bad.
What about playing and not keeping score? Anyone do that? I haven't played so bad as to do that but I have been with people that were having a bad day and wanted to quit and we said just play and don't keep score.
i quit twice for 2 years after high school golf,i will never get that time back. i force myself to believe with even the worst rounds, you can still take a way something you can build on. this is the only outlook, i have found to keep me sane and not selling my clubs and drowning in beer. while, maybe if i didn't play golf, i wouldn't have to drink beer to cope.
Bryan K says:
Hey...I quit for twelve years because I missed a five foot eagle putt...and then a two foot birdie putt...and then a two foot par putt.... Yeah, I regret it.
Don't sweat it... Sometimes things just snowball on the course. My advice, for when things are going wrong is to take each swing as an independent event. Don't over-think and try to fix your last shot's swing flaw on your next shot. Forget about it and treat your next shot as your first shot of the day. Things will turn themselves around.
Hey, last week I saw my brother shoot a 55 in the back nine (we started at the 10th tee) and be ready to quit; only to turn around a shoot a 39 in the front nine. Never heard of a 16 shot swing within the same round...
Hey, last week I saw my brother shoot a 55 in the back nine (we started at the 10th tee) and be ready to quit; only to turn around a shoot a 39 in the front nine. Never hear of a 16 shot swing within the same round...
Bryan K says:
I shot with a guy who shot in the 50's on the front nine and then shot a 30 on the back on Tuesday. Four birdies and an eagle equals six under par.
His problem on the front was his driver was completely out of control. I think he took stroke and distance five times because he couldn't find his ball, but I couldn't keep track of a score that high (and he wasn't paying any attention to it). However, when someone shoots as well as he did on the back nine, it's hard to NOT keep score.
Advice if you are struggling in your round:
-Shorten your backswing and try to hit it around 60%. You gotta calm down!
-Lessen your expectations, that is what is getting your mind tangled.. expecting to do this or that..etc.
Did I play golf with you on Tuesday?... Oh wait maybe I just played the front with you... haha
Andrew - it's golf... it's why we love to play. Got a call last night at 11:15pm to see if I wanted in on a 6:50am tee time this morning - fell asleep after 1 (ugh..) and shot a 79 with a couple of blow-ups on the back (37 at the turn) - maybe not thinking is a good thing?
Never give up on a round! It can be fun to grind it out til the end with a grim sense of determination. I say unless you are injured or ill, you can always somehow grind it out and give yourself a chance at a par or bogey, if you are determined enough and are willing to throw aesthetics out the window and play ugly even if it means chipping it around the course with a half-swing like an old lady. If you can manage one good shot per hole, even if its just a putt, then you can usually salvage some fun, no?
@beef, & those that mentioned "don't keep score"- Totally agree, pretty doesn't go on the scorecard. On our trip to Bandon in Feb, I had a caddy for our 3rd round on Pacific. I didn't feel like I was striking the ball very well, but didn't pay any attention to where I was score-wise (caddy was keeping the card). On the 18th my caddy said he had me at 81, I was surprized because it felt like a 91. Score doesn't matter untill the 19th hole. When things are not going well, my mantra is a piece of advice given by Shivas Irons in "Golf in the Kingdom", "wait em out".
One particular course has my number. I can never seem to score to my ability. But if you are playing with people you like fall back to the social aspect of the game to hold on to your enjoyment of it...
@Swingem - you are right on. Today was a break-through for me. I didn't keep the card, I just played tee to hole, knew my front 9 was pretty good - but for me the motto was "stay in the moment."
I had few rough holes, but I told myself to leave them there and play the shot in front of me, right up to the cup (my horrible drives and putting 2 weeks ago almost made me take an extended break away from the game.)
@RIDuffer - oh, man I have one of those courses too.
Tyler S says:
Try to find new acheivable challenges
I can only offer a suggestion based on my experience with the "I'm taking a break from this friggin' game" situation. First, I keep a notepad in my bag (which has now moved to my iPhone) where I write down 'notes to myself' about my swing... when it's really working well. After a round or a session on the range, I'll jot a couple notes down (posture, ball position, grip, tempo, etc.) When things fall apart, I open the book and read - it never fails to remind me of something important I'm forgetting to do.
...the Murseless says:
Chin up! I shot my worst round in years on a Saturday earlier this spring and was _this close_ to giving up the game, too. So I went out the next day and shot my best round _ever_. I hate this game.
I wish i could play everyday! don't care how bad i play just so happy to be playing! you never know how much you will miss it when you can't play.
I met a guy the other day while at eating breakfast, he said he had just shot his age! I was amazed he looked to be early 70s. after talking for awhile i found that he was 93, he and his friends started a club 40 years ago. the group as grown smaller but they still play 3-4 days a week (they walk.
i started playing with my grandfather almost 40 years ago and still haven't shot my age, with luck someday!
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