Erica Blasberg's Death Was Tragic
By Kickntrue on 3/1/11
ESPN's Outside The Lines ran a story this weekend on LPGA golfer Erica Blasberg's tragic suicide last year. Unlike a lot of our posts and links- there is nothing about this that is fun. There is really no redeeming message. Nobody comes across as likable- most notably her father Mel who is the main "character" in the retelling of her life and death. Overbearing, opinionated and unsupportive are probably generous descriptions of his relationship with his daughter, but in fairness you'd probably have to give him "loving" as well- and despite his inability to find help for his daughter, I'm not going to completely kick a grieving parent while they're already down. The whole situation is just... tragic.




Tip of the cap to Clint24 for the link.

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birdieXris says:
Wow. that was completely different than i thought it was going to be. That was some good reporting and things that i didn't know about the whole situation. Doesn't make me feel any better about the way it was resolved, maybe even worse. i just can't wrap my head around it.
3/1/11
 
guzzlingil says:
tragic........
3/1/11
 
ppinkert says:
wow.. sad.. very sad.
3/1/11
 
Trav says:
Well said.

And you know that right now, some kids are being pushed down the same path. Would any of us intervene, if we see it?
3/1/11
 
Snyper says:
Her dad is what he is, but I will say, that may be the most honest interview I've ever seen.
3/1/11
 
birdieXris says:
@Trav - I'd like to think so. if someone said to me that they were thinking about suicide i would at the very least do a double-take and ask them again. We have a duty to eachother as humans to at least intervene enough to allow them to get help. you can only do so much, but to hear that, see it, say you saw it, and still do nothing is a disservice to a friend.

@Snyper - True that.
3/1/11
 
wrhall02 says:
Wow, incredibly sad story.
3/1/11
 
Kurt the Knife says:
I had a roomate who left a "to-do" list on top of the TV.
Had about six items on it.
Number four was to kill himself.
Weird thing was there were items five and six.

I went to the squadron First Sargeant n they helped him out.

Items 5 and 6?
3/1/11
 
Kurt the Knife says:
I mean weirder than finding a "to-do" list with suicide on it.
3/1/11
 
Banker85 says:
you never know how people are really feeling life is soo different for all of us, she seemd to be living a dream but to her it was torture. The line from her friend at the end where she says do things that make you happy. if it were only that easy.
3/1/11
 
sepfeiff says:
Life on the road in professional sports is really difficult, especially golf. Every event is a "road game". It sounds like a dream, but imagine living out of hotel rooms for ten or eleven months out of the year. On top of that the younger players tend to play more events and are gone most of the year. So sad to see this.
3/1/11
 
Trav says:
@birdieXris - I agree completely about that stage, hopefully we all would act. I was trying to ask - what if any of saw the leadup by an overdemanding parent living vicariously, like a parent dropping a bomb (or whatever the video said he did on the course, can't remember exactly) on his daughter. That's the stage where results are more preventable than later when you find the note, but always clearer to see when you're looking back.
3/1/11
 
Clint24 says:
Its just so sad that there are so many side stories to this. Her roomate knew? Her father knew? Its very sad and we're all never going to know the whole story.
3/1/11
 
sperry says:
not sure I ever read a suicide story that wasn't tragic and didn't seem avoidable. she should called Charlie Sheen and got out like an F-18. that was a bad joke...
3/1/11
 
birdieXris says:
@Trav - oh yea. Well if you could see it, i would like to think so. I think mostly, nobody really does pay attention because it's seen as a little taboo to interfere with "parenting" i guess. I think a checkup and an "easy, man it's just a game" would definitely be in order. The F-bomb is pretty harsh.
3/2/11
 
homermania says:
Very sad, indeed. @Kurt- just out of curiosity, what were the 5th and 6th to-do items?
3/2/11
 
bducharm says:
Depression is a serious ailment. One person's great life is another person's nightmare! Feeling trapped can be very debilitating - trust me! A very sad story that could have had a MUCH different ending.
3/2/11
 
tennesseeboy says:
I was walking around the track at school near my home a while back. A father was on the football field throwing a football with his two sons who were probably around 8 and 10 years old. It was nothing less than child abuse. He was just teaching them to throw and catch and he was yelling at them like the Superbowl was on the line. Very sad.
3/2/11
 
Kurt the Knife says:
@homer
5. replace padlock
6. laundry
3/2/11
 
golfergirl84 says:
Mel Blasberg is the scum of the earth! The man ( and I use the term lightly) should be locked away for the rest of his life. He has the nerve to blame Dr. Hess for not seeing Erica needed help? He needs to look at himself for not helping his own daughter. He knew she was unhealthy and he didn't care. He pushed her so he could live his dream. What a AS&%le!
3/2/11
 
elhacker says:
Empathy- Our world becomes a better place when we truly practice it.
3/2/11
 
golfergirl84 says:
Mr. Blasberg does not deserve empathy. He pushed Erica to a breaking point. He never listened to what she wanted and treated her with disdain!
3/3/11
 
elhacker says:
I wasn't speaking about Mr. Blasberg. I was speaking about Erica. I cannot even fathom what that young lady was going through. Just listening and truly empathizing not sympathizing can truly help those that need it. We can all feel for her and hopefully learn something from it.
3/3/11
 
Swingem says:
@golfergirl84: Do you have kids? Are you familiar with the sacrifices necessary to shepard a human being from birth to adulthood? If not, then shut the F-up.
3/4/11
 
DefendEricasHonor says:
@Swingem: Greetings Sparky. The sacrifices necessary to shepherd a human being from birth to adulthood are to LOVE the child unconditionally, provide the child the emotional support not only when they come to you but when it's clear they need it even if they *don't* come to you, to help the child learn who THEY are in this world and what THEY love, what THEIR hopes and dreams are, etc. etc. And to SUPPORT THEM EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.

Did you even watch the damn video? Their is an outstanding book by Susan Forward and Craig Buck called "Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life". My father certainly fell into the "toxic" category. Mel Blasberg was more toxic than spent plutonium. He called himself a "tough coach" but he was more like a damn Marine Drill Instructor, only Erica was his DAUGHTER, not a U.S. Marine.
3/6/11
 
DefendEricasHonor says:
@Swingem Part 2, Sparky. Erica, and all little girls, don't need coaches and they certaily don't need tyrants or Drill Instructors. They need their DADDY. They need a FATHER. Even at age 25 there was still a little girl in there that needed her Daddy desperately. That man was neither father nor daddy. He'd do it all over again, dontcha know! Did you hear what he called her in public? How must he have treated her in private? The man was and is an abomination.

If you need this explained to you after watching that video, if you have kids, I feel damn sorry for them.

Now **YOU** STFU!!
3/6/11
 
golfergirl84 says:
@swinggem. One does not have to have kids to understand what a tyrant Mel blasberg was to Erica! No father that truely loves his child would say the things he said to her and about her! I am willing to bet the mother (whom I will remind you has been absent through this whole tragedy) was spoken to, about and treated the same. So Erica's only role models were of a tyrant of a father and verbally abused mother. This poor girl never had a chance. I certainly hope you do not have children for their sake. I would hate to see another child tormented by the fact that their father must live through their child because they are unable to or unwilling to live their own!
3/7/11
 
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